6 Things you can do before massive change hits you
These are the things you can do before the change has hit you.
1-Clarify your Goals: Clarifying your purpose is the most important thing you can do to manage change in your life. If you have a clear idea about what do you want out of the circumstances you are most likely to get them. If you don’t have a clear idea about your goals then you will not know whether you are moving in a right direction or not. It is said-
“If you don’t know where you are going,. You will end up someplace else.” ~ Yogi Berra.
Your goals act as a beacon for your efforts and provide direction in which you would like to move.
2- Create a support network: A support network consists of people who are joined together for a common cause. They provide emotional and material support to each other when needed. It acts as a safety net and provides a great peace of mind. Some people are lucky to have great friends and family network. Some just have to create their own network. But it is very important to have people on your side to listen to you and provide you comfort when you need it the most. Many times you will find support groups organized around a specific need. One great way to find a group specific to your needs is to look for a meet-up group in your local area. So find your support group and be a part of it now.
3-Create an understanding of the situation: Find out as much as you can on your specific situation when you suspects. You may not all the information but you will get informed. Lack of information is biggest reason for fearing change. And fear of change is the biggest obstacle to managing change.
4-Make emergency and worst case scenario plans: Make emergency plans and the worst case scenarios. Look at all the options and see prepared for a worst case scenario. This is not about getting fearful or being afraid. Actually it is the opposite of that. Creating a plan simply provides a reassurance and frees your mind. As your attention is taking away from what will happen to the re-assurance that no matter what happens, you will be OK.
5-Create a level of comfort with change: Cultivate an attitude where change is a fact of life. Change will be present whether we like it or not. There are things that we can control and there are things that we have no control over. It is useless to fret over the things that you can’t control. It is said-
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” ~Reinhold Niebuhr
You develop a level of comfort with the change when you realize that the only things you have control over is your own attitude and your own response. The circumstances don’t matter your reaction to them does.
6- Manage the speed of change: Manage the speed of the change. Many a times the change itself is not a problem but how fast it overtakes us matters. So changing the speed of the change would make a significant difference in your well being. You can slow down the pace of change by removing the unessential in your life. Simplify your life by cutting the activities that don’t contribute to your goals. Anything that doesn’t create satisfaction or happiness in your life need to be reevaluated.
“The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak”~Hans Hofmann
6 Things you can do while facing the change
These are the things you can do after you have already been hit with the current of major changes in your life.
1-Don’t deny it and always face it: Denial only prolongs the inevitable and complicates the situation. Putting your head in the sand doesn’t work and it doesn’t change the situation maybe only for the worse. Facing a change situation might seem hard in the beginning but later on It pays big dividends. Facing it means being honest with yourself and admitting what is going on in your life.
2-Don’t project fear and past: Don’t assume that any big change is going to be bad. There could be many hidden opportunities that are presented as the part of the package. Don’t project fear and reach out of the past experiences. Sometimes the big changes provide us a way for a start a totally new and wonderful start in our lives.
3-Simplify and objectify: Don’t take more than you can bite. Even though the change may be huge and overwhelming, it doesn’t have to overwhelm you. Don’t add fuel to the fire by making panic decisions and adding more change on top of the existing changes that you are going through. The best way to do this is to look at the situation objectively. Postpone extra change and manage the pace of change. It becomes easier to look at the situation objectively if you write it down. Writing takes emotions out of the picture. And helps to focus on the essentials.
4-Take one bite at a time: Have a bigger plan but act with small steps at a time. Take one small step at a time. Move in the right direction with one step at a time. Once you have a firm grasp of the direction of your movement the bite sizes can be bigger. It is easier to focus on a small step at a time rather than trying to do too much at the same time. Moving too fast increase the risks and introduce disappointment and rejection.
5-Always focus on the positive outcome: Keeping a positive attitude is a must during the times of great changes. The attitude keeps you afloat when things look dark and gloomy. There are going to be negative thoughts going through your mind. It is good to remember that dwelling on the negativity doesn’t help your cause of moving out of it at all.
“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” ~ Robert Louis Stevenson
6-Use the support network: The could easily be the most important factor in terms of successfully facing a crisis of change. You may miss a strategy, you may not have a backup plan and you may have entirely misread the whole situation. But one thing that can compensate for all the setbacks is the support of your friends, family and your other support group. It is way easier to face the problem when we are together.
“We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.” ~J.K. Rowling